ROBERT OSCAR LOPEZ: The Bryan Singer Pederasty Story is an Elephant in the Room.
Because these are still allegations at this point and nothing is proved, I would like respectfully to refrain from saying much about it. . . .
Having said that, the charges made by Singer’s accuser sound much like scenes to which I was exposed as a late teen . . . The gay male community has a real problem with predators and a dangerous erotic fascination with boys . . . Part of the allure of young-looking males is the turn-on for many older gay men to exploit their typical awkwardness, need for approval, restlessness, and vulnerability. . . .
Up until 2012, I had always narrated a sanitized version of my past to myself: I was precocious, sexually curious, and “advanced for my age,” I told myself. Never was I a victim; never did anything happen that I didn’t control and pre-arrange. It was my French ally Iphigénie who first called me out . . .
“You sound like someone who was severely sexually abused,” she said, “and you are doing what so many victims do; reinventing the story so you are the aggressor rather than the violated one. But you must stop writing such things, because you are feeding the ideology of the pedophiles who say the young boys want their attentions.” . . .
Over the ensuing months, I found myself examining my own past, even consulting my journals some, to make sense of what pederasty did to me as a boy. For the first time I processed something that I’d avoided dealing with before: I was a boy of thirteen when I became a sexual toy for older men, and not long afterwards, I was a whore. A whore.