“Choice Daddies”: Men who choose to be single fathers via surrogacy.
I truly understand the appeal of parenthood without the very real threat of divorce-rape and fractional bondage should one’s female partner become dissatisfied. And from purely numbers standpoint, paying $40,000 USD to be a single father suddenly snaps into focus when the average US wedding approaches $30,000, the cost to undo that marriage nears $50,000, and the average chalimony bill is more than $5,000 annually. Roll it all together, and the cost of marrying and subsequently re-gaining your freedom in the 50% likelihood of marital failure is around $200,000. In some areas of the US, you can buy a house for that kind of money.
So, there are not a few solid reasons for the cynical or jaded or burned or cooly rational to opt for choice daddyhood. Yet I still oppose it, and here’s why.